Holiday Tips for Separated Families (or Families Considering Separation)

The holiday spirit is all about family. But what happens when a family is in the middle of a major breakdown?

The holiday season is usually a time when families gather together. For children, this time of the year is magical. For parents, however, who are divorced or going through a divorce, it can be quite difficult, particularly when it comes to deciding where their children should spend their time.
Here are some tips to families if this is their first holiday after separation:

Is it a good idea to wait until after the holidays to announce a divorce?

Most parents want to keep it together just to make a good memory for their kids. But this can only be possible if both the parents keep their differences aside. Otherwise, the family will feel unnecessary tension.

What if you are already separated?

Many families try to divide up the ‘day’ – meaning kids spend time with one spouse in the morning and another in the afternoon. While this makes both parents happy, it can be really difficult for the kids. Another good option is to celebrate on different days with each parent, and to create your own traditions.

What if you want to introduce a new partner into your holiday traditions?

The holidays might seem like a great time because it is all about family, but you have to consider your personal situation and ask yourself if this is the right time.

What if you are a single parent and want to create the ‘magic’ of the holidays for the kids?

It can be overwhelming to fulfill the role of both the parents during the holiday season. Try spending time with other families that also have children to provide warmth and entertainment to your little ones.

How to deal with ex-in-laws who want to spend time with their grandkids, even when it’s not their turn?

This can be challenging, but remembering that they love your kids too is important. It is crucial for everyone to compromise.

Where the kids spend Christmas Day is one of the most difficult decisions. Kids should have the opportunity to see both parents over the holidays. Choices should be made that are in the best interests of the kids rather than the adults.

In the event where you cannot reach an agreeable solution then an application can be made to court. A mediator who is an independent third party can assist discussions and help parents in reaching an agreeable solution or the parties may wish to engage the services of a parenting coordinator.

The most important point is to take steps now. Don’t leave it until  only a few days before Christmas.
The Family lawyers at Sekhon Law wish everyone happy holidays!